What circumstances seem to have placed limits on your relationship?

—  Infidelity?  —

Did you decide to stay together after the affair?

After the apologies, promises and forgiveness, 

love may have seemed to be enough to keep you 

together.

Although you’re still a couple, 

are the remnants of the affair keeping you apart?

 How comfortable is it living with guilt and shame, 

feelings of insecurity and unresolved trust issues?

—  Communication?  —

“Are you listening to me?!? I literally just said that!”

“You’re so sensitive! Stop being a baby! Grow up!”

“This is not my fault! Had you done that, 

this wouldn’t be happening right now!”

“Use your words! How am I supposed to know 

what you’re thinking?!?”

“So...you’re just going to ignore me now?”

Is this how you normally communicate, 

especially during conflict? 

If so, have you settled on keeping conversations 

“light”?

—  Money?  —

Do you find yourselves constantly 

disagreeing over finances? 

Is someone spending too much money? 

Are debts being neglected?

Is someone not consulting before making 

certain purchases?

Because money concerns always bring on 

arguments for you, 

you’ve learned to push your frustrations down and 

avoid discussing them all together.

— Launching? —

The kids have moved out and now the house is 

empty and quiet. 

After 20 years, its just the two of you again 

and you’re starting to wonder if the excitement 

left with the kids. 

Is this “it” for you? Is this what life will look like 

from now on? 

No matter the circumstances and how they left you feeling, know that you can heal, start again and change the ending.